Centaury: The Service Flower. From Passive Service to Active Service

Kind, quiet, gentle people who are over anxious to serve others.  They overtax their strength in their endeavors.  Their wish so grows upon them that they become more servants than willing helpers.  Their good nature leads them to do more than their own share of work, and in so doing they may neglect their own particular mission in life.                                                                                                             – Dr Edward Bach

 

I used to have a book on my shelf titled “How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty.”  I never read it thoroughly, but just having the title staring at me from its paperback cover was a great reminder that it’s okay to say no!  I have also learned that there can be a big difference between a hard “NO!” and a soft “No.”

Do you sometimes feel weak-willed?  Are you susceptible to being bullied by a strong personality type?  Do you often feel imposed upon by others’ expectations, which can result in a feeling of loss of energy, because you are having to repress the fear of saying no to them?  Do you tend to be more passive, quiet, and even submissive in a potential conflict?

I remember a relationship counselor telling me that there were three choices I could make in a stressful situation:

1. Put up with it.
2. Leave the situation or person.
3. Assert yourself.

Enter Centaury Bach Flower Remedy to the rescue!  Taking Centuary helps you stand up for yourself when you are in danger of being exploited.  Centaury can offer clarity in drawing boundaries between your own needs and those of others.

A fellow practitioner, Jeannete, shared a personal story, highlighting her need for Centaury.  “I avoid conflict because I want it all to be easy and happy. A dominant and bossy “best friend” walked all over me until, in the end, I had to leave the friendship because I didn’t know how to assert myself in the relationship. I still don’t like conflict, but I have a cut-off point now.”

Centaury is ideal for:

• Caregivers, empaths, and service-oriented people.
• Those recovering from codependent dynamics.
• Anyone learning to speak up or prioritize self-care.
• People pleasers who want to shift into self-respect.

Taking Centaury can feel like gently reweaving the fabric of your boundaries.  You don’t become less kind; you become more yourself.  You give from overflow, not obligation. Maintaining your individuality and feeling a quiet strength and assertiveness helps you know when to give or not.

 

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