The jovial, cheerful, humorous people who love peace and are distressed by argument or quarrel, to avoid which they will agree to give up much. Though generally they have troubles and are tormented and restless and worried in mind or body, they hide their cares behind their humor and jesting and are considered very good friends to know. They often take alcohol or drugs in excess to stimulate themselves and help themselves bear their trials with cheerfulness. – Dr. Edward Bach
The key to an Agrimony character is that they attempt to conceal disturbing thoughts and inner restlessness behind a cheerful face and a life free of worry. Trying to please people to keep the peace can call for sacrifices to avoid confrontation. This may involve hiding from oneself and putting on a mask of “Everything OK” when it’s not!
Minimizing problems and not discussing them with yourself or others creates a need to avoid confrontations at all costs and appear unaffected by maintaining a happy facade. This coping mechanism is probably born from a childhood limitation whereby feelings were not acknowledged or discussed. Enter the convenient distractions of a mild or complex addiction to anything that will stop us from feeling the intensity and discomfort of deeper emotions.
I often think of the races in the Northern hemispheres, England being one of them, as being more reserved than the Mediterranean cultures, which tend to be more expressive and expansive in their communication styles. This dynamic has played out in my marriage, as my sometimes overly expressive and vocal husband has challenged my more uptight need to control myself. It has been a fascinating journey and quite challenging to become more honest with myself and others. I haven’t always gotten it “right,” and I am a work in progress!
However, the positive potential of balancing the limiting aspects of agrimony leads to incredible rewards in dealing with confrontation, acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of a situation and growing from it, and relaxing into a genuine and sweet inner joyfulness and humor about life and self.
Empowering statements for the self could include:
I am at peace with myself.
I am honest with myself and others.
It’s safe to reveal myself.
Information is based on traditional homeopathic practices. This is not medical advice. Not FDA evaluated.
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References: The Twelve Healers and Heal Thyself – The Essential Writings of Dr. Edward Bach Emotional Wisdom with Bach Flower Remedies by Lynn Macwhinnie Bach Flower Therapy by Mechthild Scheffer Bach Flower Remedies for Children by Barbara Mazzarella
